When you post a comment through Jetpack, and you have a WordPress.com blog, then it shows in the dashboard 'Home' in the 'Your Stuff' column whether or not the comment has been approved.

That works for me. :-) Personally I'm not waiting for yet another e-mail.

That doesn't account for people who have a WordPress (Gravatar) account, but not a blog (.com or .org)?

"I moderate every comment!"
~ Jeff Chandler

Considering your work load, is it an idea to reach out to people with a disability that are looking for work experience/ volunteer work (something like that), to off load your work load at some points on the WP Tavern blog, this could allow people to learn job experience. Win win. Just thinking out loud, so it may not be a good idea.