1. Never go to an after party that is held at an establishment that serves alcohol, or anywhere that people go to "hookup." If the party isn't someplace respectable, like a place where people aren't trying to "hookup," or if you know alcohol will be served, then don't go, because you already know you are putting yourself at risk of becoming uncomfortable. Why ruin a good WordCamp experience like that? I'm male, and guess what? I have never gone to an after party because they have all been held at a tavern or bar, and I don't want to deal with a bunch of drunk people who will probably say something they'll regret later. Call it experience, common sense, or just avoiding trouble.

2. When women forget they are women, and just act like they are part of something, like the WordPress community, or just another developer on a team at work, or whatever, everyone else has to remind themselves the woman on the team is a woman, because they just think of her as an asset and a team member. When women demand special treatment, and constantly shout they are not getting equal treatment it creates a hostile environment for males who are afraid to look like they aren't being fair. Just let everyone be themselves, and win a seat at the table by being the best you can be. It's a really simple formula. I say this having worked in businesses where the majority of employees were 97% women, and they didn't want men working "in their profession."

Grace Hopper is a good example of a woman who didn't try to make an issue out of the fact she was a woman to advance herself. She was simply the best she could be, which is why Dr Hopper EARNED so much respect.