@B.E.Johnson - I guess I wonder what you mean by "let them have their passive-aggressive ways". Should we have "WordPress courtesy police" that escort them from our community? In the physical world, do you make it your mission to change the personality of strong willed and sharp-elbowed voices in meetings and office places?

Just speaking for myself, I go into any community accepting that I'm not going to like everyone, and not everyone's going to like me. I also try to give voices that might initially strike me as "rude" the benefit of the doubt, because I'm absolutely sure I've come off the same way at times.

Really, it seems to me, most of us have enough real problems to worry about without stressing out about human nature.

And I guess that's my point - if you don't think WordPress is really any worse or better (I think it's better!) than any other place where passionate human beings gather, than maybe we're really making much ado about not very much.